Marriage = hard work, promises kept, forgiveness, faithfulness, kindness, trust, togetherness, friendship, joy, laughter, tears, endurance, and the knowledge that there is always someone on your side.
Three of the most important things we need to learn to say:
1. Please forgive me
2. I forgive you
3. I love you
When is it time to forgive?
When he’s offended you?
When she hasn’t done what you asked?
If he said sorry?
When you feel like it?
No, forgiveness is something that you do all of the time.
I believe forgiveness is a gift.
It frees us.
It makes us better.
God forgave us everything, even when we didn’t deserve it.
Don’t you think we should at least try and be forgiving?
Isn’t it time we love one another, forgive one another?
Try saying this…
I forgive you
You’re the best
I want nothing from you but you
I take you as you are
I love you
Think for a moment for the need to live with a loyal mind, a loyal heart.
And what to be loyal to?
Of course there are others, but these are the primary ones.
What does loyalty mean?
Well, I looked up lots of dictionaries and this is what I came up with.
- To be true to someone or something, staying true to your values, especially as a wife to her husband, or husband to wife, friend to friend.
- Unswerving faithfulness to a cause, ideal, custom.
These days you get a loyalty card at every store you go into, for every cup of coffee, burger or lipgloss you buy, but really how loyal are you to that store? If a new store opens down the street or next door, you know you’ll check out the new flavour of the month.
I believe that loyalty is so much more than just a belief in something.
I believe that loyalty to your marriage is like being a fierce lioness protecting her cubs.
I believe that loyalty means never thinking about possibilities other than your own marriage.
I believe that loyalty is unwavering, unblinking, unflinching, resolute, steadfast, uncompromising, unbending, unyielding, never ending.
Some scriptures to consider.
Matthew 26:33-35 and 26:69-75
2 Chronicles 11:13-16
Hmmm think on this:
I just read this quote from Ps Mark Kelsey:
“Discouragement left unattended becomes disillusionment which left unattended becomes deception.”
Woah…it stopped and made me really think. According to my source he was speaking at a staff meeting, but I saw how this applies so much to marriage.
How easily we can become discouraged.
By a word, by a deed, by a look.
Then we meditate on the word, the deed the look and we become disillusioned.
Before long we look outside to fulfil our needs and that’s where the deception begins.
I think the best thing would be not to get past the first stage. Don’t let that word, deed, look turn from discouragement into disillusionment. A quick, easy, cure to that is ask why, or what it meant.
It may not get you perfection, but we have to start somewhere don’t we?
If my husband says something I don’t like or understand, I don’t mediate on it (oh, yes, once upon a time I did), I ask him what he means by his words and actions.
I don’t always get the answer I want or need, but I do get an answer, and I know that he loves me, he has faults because, after all he is human, so I must forgive him and myself and grow from what I know.
“Loving someone is giving them the power to hurt you, but trusting them not to”. ~ Anonymous