“It’s been so long since we last talked.”
Do you think sometimes this is the case with your loved one?
I don’t mean “pass the salt”, “who’s picking the kids up from school?”.
I mean “how are you doing?”, “fine”. No. That’s not what I’m talking about.
How about this. “how are you really feeling? I see you’ve been so busy lately, running the kids around, working hard to pay the bills, striving to get that promotion, looking after your sick mother, and so much more. You seem tired, exhausted really, we don’t cuddle anymore, really cuddle, we only have that perfunctory kiss on the cheek as we pass each other on the way out or back in the house. When was the last time we made time for each other, made love, had a quiet meal alone, talked about each other, to each other?”
Sounds hard, sad even.
It’s not too late, never too late to hit the pause button for a moment and remember each other.
Pack the kids off to their bedrooms, turn off the tv and the phones, forget work, housework, it will all still be there in a couple of hours.
Light a candle, open a bottle of wine, turn on some quiet music and look at each other, maybe even hold hands.
Reminisce, remember when you first met, first dated, where you went, what you did, think about the things that you’ve laughed at, talk about your dreams, share your visions, make plans.
Above all, say this “I love you”.
