I had a bit of a bad morning on Saturday.
Feeling really low, I even cried. When my husband saw me in tears he held me in his arms, speaking words of encouragement and love, then took me out to lunch.
He is so precious, and treats me so well, I always feel loved and blessed by this man. I only hope I return the same kind of love to him.
I hope each and everyone of you feels safe, encouraged, beautiful, blessed, but most of all LOVED.
Three of the most important things we need to learn to say:
1. Please forgive me
2. I forgive you
3. I love you
“It’s been so long since we last talked.”
Do you think sometimes this is the case with your loved one?
I don’t mean “pass the salt”, “who’s picking the kids up from school?”.
I mean “how are you doing?”, “fine”. No. That’s not what I’m talking about.
How about this. “how are you really feeling? I see you’ve been so busy lately, running the kids around, working hard to pay the bills, striving to get that promotion, looking after your sick mother, and so much more. You seem tired, exhausted really, we don’t cuddle anymore, really cuddle, we only have that perfunctory kiss on the cheek as we pass each other on the way out or back in the house. When was the last time we made time for each other, made love, had a quiet meal alone, talked about each other, to each other?”
Sounds hard, sad even.
It’s not too late, never too late to hit the pause button for a moment and remember each other.
Pack the kids off to their bedrooms, turn off the tv and the phones, forget work, housework, it will all still be there in a couple of hours.
Light a candle, open a bottle of wine, turn on some quiet music and look at each other, maybe even hold hands.
Reminisce, remember when you first met, first dated, where you went, what you did, think about the things that you’ve laughed at, talk about your dreams, share your visions, make plans.
Above all, say this “I love you”.
Love means:
accepting faults
walking through the hard times
wearing the battle scars
staying together
making a decision to stay in love
Try saying this…
I’m sorry
I forgive you
You’re beautiful
You’re wonderful
You’re the best
I want nothing from you but you
I take you as you are
Please
Thank you
I love you
Why Love?
1Corinthians 13:13
And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.
Why love? Why is love the greatest of all?
Why not faith, or hope, or as further back in Corinthians 13, patience, kindness, truth, endurance, long-suffering?
I’ve been thinking about this a lot. Pondering the meaning of love. Seeking answers.
All of these other things are wonderful attributes.
Surely we should seek to have these traits.
Surely “goodness and kindness” are important.
Well, yes they are, but Paul says here, the greatest of all is love.
But why? Yes I know I sound like one of the children. But why?
Why love? No really, why love?
It’s hard work to love completely.
It’s overwhelming to love unconditionally.
It’s difficult to love when it isn’t returned.
It’s hurtful to love when we are in pain.
But…
It’s wonderful when we are loved back.
It’s amazing to be loved without condition.
It’s brilliant to be loved securely.
It’s remarkable to know love.
Why love?
Because God IS love.
What makes us think we “deserve” love anyway?
To be loved, we love.
“You are beautiful…when you let friends have their space, when you believe, when you laugh, or are moved to tears, when you let it just roll right off your back, when you talk about your dreams, when you help a turtle across the road, when you try to do the right thing even when it comes out wrong, when you love.” ~ Anonymous
“True love is not measured in hugs and kisses, but in struggles and fears, and those who can work though those…they possess true love”. Adam Murphy
