We have been doing some work on our home, and mostly things have gone well, but…there have been a few things that have gone wrong.
Just like any marriage.
Sometimes it’s renovation time. Time to change things a little. These times happen, in my opinion like this.
- You get engaged, buy a dress, have a wedding day, full of love, music, dancing, speeches, and away you go.
- Then the marriage really begins, and you have to renovate your life, rearrange, share decisions, make compromises in this new life, new way of living.
- Next it’s kids. That’s a big renovation, a whole new set of rules. Really it’s like building a new house. Who does what, when and how? Managing, well just about everything, find out how to negotiate the housework, the budget, the discipline, I could go on, but you get my meaning.
- Then just like that, the kids are gone, grown up, finding their own way, and as much as you’d like to renovate their lives so it’s perfect, that never works. As the Fleetwood Mac song says “You can go your own way”.
- Now it’s back to being just the two of us. What do we do now? We renovate, downsize, find each other again. Remember that no matter what, the marriage is more important than anything. Yes, you think you love your kids more than anyone, but the truth as I see it, is you must always love your husband or wife first, because through all of the renovations, big, small, and everything in between, that’s how you keep a marriage strong.
- Grandchildren come, and fill your heart, your family grows and grows, ours certainly has, but come the end of the day, and no matter what else is going on, you have each other.
- Parents die, and who can comfort you more than anyone else? The one you married all those years ago.
- At the end of the day, you are left with each other, to nurture, love, and occasionally renovate
So, you see just as we do a little renovate on our home, we are always renovating our marriages.
Have a wonderful day
Dominique xoxo